I’ve been realizing lately that I’ve become lonely. Lonelier than I’ve ever been in the past. It’s not really a place I ever thought I’d be. I’ve always had friends, lots of them. All through high school, college, and my mid-twenties I was always hanging out with friends and always had someone to talk to. But I’ve realized as I’ve gotten married and entered my late twenties, early thirties, and getting close to 34, I don’t have those friends anymore. I’ve become a mom who’s lonely.
I rarely get together with friends and hang out and have fun anymore. Heck, I’m not sure I really even have friends anymore. No one to talk to outside of my husband/family, no one to do life with, laugh with, cry with, no one who “get’s” it. And it’s a lonely place to be.
This has been a hard realization for me and it’s not easy to admit and write about. But I’m trying to be more vulnerable, more open. And if I’m feeling this way, I am sure there are other women feeling lonely, too. So if that’s you, if you’re a mom who’s lonely right now, know that you’re not alone.
How did I get here, to this place of loneliness?
That’s kind of hard to say. It crept up on me and I didn’t really realize it was happening until I was here. I was one of the last of my friends group to get married, and am one of the last to start a family (currently pregnant with my first). Many, if not most of my friends already have at least one kid. Most of them have multiple kids – 2, 3, or even 4 now. I think that as they got married and started their families while I was still single, it was hard to keep up the relationship and it got harder and harder to connect with them. They had other priorities, as well they should, and time to hang out with friends became scarce.
Then when I got married, I kind of felt like I was in this in-between stage, where a few of my friends were still single, and most of the others had kids. I kind of felt like I didn’t really belong anywhere, not really. It was kind of an awkward stage for me and made it hard to connect. Now that I’m finally starting a family of my own, I’m realizing that I don’t have any friends now, not really. And it’s a lonely place to be.
So what can we do about it, when we find ourselves in this lonely place?
Remind yourself that it’s a season. It’s not forever, at least it doesn’t have to be. We all go through seasons in life, and some are harder than others. I’d even guess that most people have had seasons in their life where they felt a similar loneliness. Just because we’re feeling lonely right now and don’t have friends to connect with, doesn’t mean it will always be this way. Seasons change. They come and go. This one will too.
Pick up the phone and call someone.Or text if that’s more your thing. I know that I didn’t get to this place solely because of other people, I had a part in it too. I could have picked up the phone and called or texted my girlfriends and tried harder to keep in touch. Now, I’m not saying it’s all my fault or letting myself feel guilty about it. It happens. It’s life; it is what it is. But instead of wallowing in self-pity, I can do something about it. I can call up a girlfriend and make a plan to get together.
Do something fun. Get out of the house and go do something fun. If you’re anything like me, you’re realizing that you haven’t really had fun lately. So go enjoy life again! We need to stop staying at home and feeling sorry for ourselves. There’s so much life that can be lived. When’s the last time you did something just for fun?
Get connected. If you’ve been at home with no friends and no one to talk to, start looking for somewhere to get connected. A mom’s group, a church small group, somewhere where you can connect with other women on a regular basis. I plan on joining a mom’s group that meets at a local church, as well as getting connected in a church small group with other couples with my husband. We can’t do life alone, at least not for very long. We were made to live in community, so get out there and find yours. Look online for local Facebook groups, networking groups, on church websites, etc. Ask around to see what kinds of things other women you know are involved in. I’m sure you can find something if you look hard enough.
Pray. Pray that God would bring someone into your life to be a friend. Maybe He can use you to bring friendship into someone else’s life who needs it. Maybe it’s an old friend, or maybe it’s a new one. It could be anyone. But you can always pray that He would connect you to the right person for this season of your life.
You’re not alone, girlfriend. And it gets better. I promise. We’re in this hard season together and we’ll get through it together. You’re not alone.
If you’ve been around for a hot second, you may know that I am a leader with Color Street. (Don’t know what Color Street is? Girlfriend, you’re missing out! It’s 100% nail polish that is dry to the touch and it will change.your.life! I mean, who has time to wait for their nails to dry?! And a salon looking manicure that lasts for up to two weeks and is quick and easy to do and removable with nail polish remover? It’s a no brainer! Here’s a short video for you to check out! And just click this link when you’re ready to shop!)
I was with a different direct sales company (which I still LOVE and use daily) before joining Color Street. Why did I switch? I still love and use my previous company’s products, so why did I make the change? Here are just a few reasons why I love my dry nail polish business!
Color Street is a brand new company
I know a lot of people in direct sales/MLM companies throw around the “ground floor company” phrase, sometimes a little too much. But it makes sense and it’s definitely true of Color Street. As of writing this, we aren’t even two years old yet! The company started in June 2017. But even better than being a ground floor, new company? We are backed by a 30 year old product and company and because of that we are debt free! Yes!!!
Incoco is our parent company. Mr. Park, our owner, always knew that he wanted to use direct sales to promote his products. He LOVES the fact that he can help women create an income for their families in a way that works for them. He knew that he didn’t have the knowledge or skills to launch a direct sales business immediately, so he perfected his product and business first, then branched out when he knew he was ready. Watch a quick video of his story here. It’s pretty amazing. And he’s pretty incredible. And now if you try to buy dry nail polish strips from Incoco’s website, you get directed to Color Street and a local Color Street stylist instead!
Women have been painting their nails for years and years years, as early as 3000 BC (according to goodhousekeepnig.com)! The liquid nail polish as we know it has been around since the 1920’s. And my guess is that it’s not going to to away any time soon! 😉 So any way that it can be made better, easier, safer, and quicker is a huge win in my book!
I love that I can help women look and feel just a bit more put together without taking much time out of their day. Like I said before, who really has time to paint their nails? I know some women love taking the time and spending the money to get their nails done in a salon, and I get it. But for those of us who don’t have that kind of time or money (which is probably most of us), Color Street is a life saver! A professional looking mani for less than half the cost? Yes, please!
Color Street’s dry nail polish is a consumable product
This is one of the things about this product and business that makes it so easy! Typically, once people try our polish, they fall in love it and come back for more! It’s hard not to, since it makes life so much easier. It makes looking more put-together quick and easy to do. It’s affordable, too! And I love that we sell just one product. One. So easy to explain and no need to know tons of info about lots of different products.
There are lots of direct sales products out there that I love and use, but having a consumable product to sell is a plus in my book. Once someone gets hooked, they typically will host a party so they can get more for free. Plus, they’re already telling their friends and family about this awesome new product they found, so they end up joining, growing a team, and growing their income! Can’t go wrong with that.
Ok, I could say a whole lot here. Let’s just say the Color Street comp plan is pretty dang awesome. While I can not and will not make any income claims, I was able to quite my teaching job after just 8 months of being in this business.
This business has been a blessing in many ways, the income being one of them! It is such a blessing to have the freedom to be able to work from home instead of teach, especially with being pregnant! I had a pretty miserable first trimester, so it was a blessing to be able to stay home. I can’t imagine teaching through that!
I was also able to pay, in cash, an all inclusive trip for my husband and I to Jamaica last June, after being in the business for 9 months. All because of this business. Then I was able to help pay to get our fence and deck redone. I’ve been able to help with bills and extra expenses. I am currently saving up for some projects around the house that we would love to do, including new flooring and remodeling our kitchen. These things wouldn’t have happened without my Color Street business.
Y’all, I love our price point. $11-14 is pretty dang affordable, and our buy 3 get 1 deal and buy 1 get 1 french deal makes it even cheaper! You definitely can’t get a mani and pedi for that price at a salon! While I do just a mani more often than not (they last waaaay longer on my toes!), you can pretty easily get a mani and a pedi out of one set. But no matter how you look at it, our price point is awesome and one that most people can afford if they’re willing and able to spend a little money on themselves. And since Color Street’s polish lasts for up to two weeks (I typically wear mine anywhere from 7-10 days), it’s a great deal!
Ok, this point is one of my favorites. When you’re wearing Color Street on your nails, you are a walking advertisement every where you go! People often comment on my nails, because who wouldn’t when they look that good?! 😉 haha. But really! People notice. I always keep samples with my information in my purse to hand out to people who comment on them. Whenever possible I put the sample on them right then and there so they can see the magic for themselves. It’s a great way to meet new people and share the love. I keep some full sets in my purse as well, in case anyone wants to purchase a set (or a few!) right then and there and not wait to order online.
So, what do you think? Ready to start your own business with Color Street’s magical dry nail polish strips? Or maybe you’d love to chat with me about it first? I’d love to talk with you more and see if this business might be a right fit for you. No pressure, I promise! That is totally not my thing.
If you love Color Street, be sure to leave me a comment below and tell me what you love most about it!
Morning sickness. The dreaded first trimester (usually) struggle. Why do they call it morning sickness, anyway? For me it was all.day.long. It was miserable. If you are one of the lucky women who don’t have much, if any, sickness during your first trimester, ENJOY IT! If you are one of the not-so-lucky few who deal with it all.pregnancy.long, you have my greatest sympathy. Surviving morning sickness is one of the not-so-fun things we moms do for our children. Because we love them.
The one upside, if you can call it that, to feeling sick during the first trimester, is that it is proof that there is a little tiny human growing in your belly! And that makes it all worth it.
If you are in the midst of surviving morning sickness, here are a few things that helped me find relief during my first trimester. (Along with eating/snacking small meals more frequently, eating foods high in protein, avoiding greasy or spicy food, etc).
Surviving Morning Sickness: 6 Ways I Found Relief
1. Preggie Pop Drops – These things were a lifesaver for me during the first part of my pregnancy! I kept them with me at all times – in my jacket/pants pockets, my purse, my car, the bedroom, the living room, my office. Anywhere I went I made sure I had these with me. I got the ones with vitamin B6 in them, as I had heard that can help with nausea as well.
2. Ginger Ale – I lived off of ginger ale during my first trimester – so much so that I was sure I would be sick of it by the end. Surprisingly, I wasn’t! (But I have stopped drinking it since because of the sugar content, now that I am feeling much better.) Ginger Ale was about the only thing I could drink and keep down during the first couple months of being pregnant. I made sure to have some with me everywhere I went.
3. Applesauce – Everyone says to eat crackers, like saltines, when you’re feeling nauseas, especially first thing in the morning before you get out of bed. But that didn’t work for me. I’m not sure if it’s because I don’t really like saltines all that much or what, but I couldn’t stomach them. But applesauce? I ate it like crazy, first thing every morning and anytime through out the day or night when I needed something quick.
I would buy the little applesauce cups and put one by my bed every night with a spoon so that I would have it first thing in the morning. And I’m STILL eating applesauce pretty much every morning right when I wake up, even though I’m no longer dealing with morning sickness. It is really nice to have something quick and readily available to put in my stomach right when I wake up each morning.
4. Peppermint – After awhile I got kind of tired of the Preggie Pop Drops. Enter peppermints. I had heard that peppermint could help with nausea, and my first trimester just happened to be right before Christmas, so candy canes were readily available! And I love candy canes anyway, so it was perfect. I also kept these babies with me everywhere – the little ones were the perfect size.
5. Ginger tea – When I wasn’t drinking ginger ale, I would drink some ginger tea. I wasn’t drinking coffee because I knew my stomach couldn’t handle it, so it was nice to be able to have a hot drink when I was missing my coffee. And a huge plus for the ginger helping to calm my stomach!
6. Pink Stork Pregnancy Probiotic – I was taking Pink Stork’s Total Prenatal + DHA vitamin as my prenatal vitamin. When I saw that they also had a pregnancy probiotic and that it could potentially help with morning sickness and nausea, I was sold! It is nice to have something to support my gut health during my pregnancy, and even better that it helped me survive morning sickness!
What are some of your favorite ways to relieve morning sickness? Tell me in the comments – I’d love some more ideas for next time!
We are currently smack dab in the middle of winter and if you live some where like me (Kansas), it gets cold and dreary often! If you’re somewhere down south with nice weather – send some of it my way! 😉 Does it ever feel like spring is never going to get here?! I’m definitely ready for spring and tired of the cold weather. Here are 5 tips to fight the wintertime blues.
If you haven’t noticed, in the winter, there is a lack of sunshine. Days are short, nights are long, and the cold weather can make it hard to get outside. Because of this we can miss out on getting Vitamin D in our bodies, since most of it comes from the sun.
The obvious answer would be to get outside as much as possible! But if that’s not happening much, you can look into taking Vitamin D, the “sunshine” vitamin. (Be sure to consult with your doctor first, especially if you have any health concerns or are taking any medications.)
Do what you can to prevent sickness
Winter time is also flu season. And ain’t nobody got time to be sick! Do what you can to prevent sickness in your home.
Wash hands frequently (and teach your kids to do this as well), drink lots of water, eat nutritious foods, get plenty of sleep, wipe down surfaces in your house regularly (Norwex anyone?), get fresh air, etc.
Don’t wait until sickness happens to take action. Be on the offensive and do what you can to take preventative measures!
Go do something fun
Plan something fun. Something for you that you enjoy, something for you and your significant other, or something for you and your family. Give yourself something to look forward to.
It can be easy to just stay at home all winter long and not do much when it is so cold outside. But it’s good to get out of the house and do something!
Or if you can’t get out, then plan something at home! A game night, a fun dinner, invite some friends over, etc! Do something that you will enjoy!
Eat healthy and get exercise
If you’re anything like me, winter time is also lazy time. It’s too cold to get out. I’m tired and don’t have as much energy. It can be hard to get myself motivated to move! I just want to hang out on the nice warm couch and chill with a glass of wine and Oreos.
But exercising and eating healthy are extremely important for our well being. So get out and go for a walk or to a park on a nice day. If you have a membership, go to the gym or do some yoga. You can even look up some youtube videos and do it at home! Just make sure to get up and move a bit each day!
Take some time to care for yourself. Take a bath. Get a massage. Read a book. Have someone watch the kids while you take a nice leisurely stroll through Target with a coffee in your hand. Get together with some girl friends. Do your nails! Save money and time at the salon and get fun, cute nails quickly and easily by using the magic of Color Street.
Whatever you do, don’t just take care of everyone else around you. Take care of yourself as well. Don’t forget about you.
What kinds of things do you do to help beat the wintertime blues? Share in a comment below!
I’m Melissa Mackey, a leader with Color Street and a new lifestyle/mom blogger. A former special ed teacher turned work from home mama who loves coffee, wine, Mexican food, donuts, horses, and Jesus. Passionate about helping women like you feel just a bit more put together without taking much time out of your day – dry nail polish for the win! Sharing my about my pregnancy and journey to becoming a new mom while working my business. Come alongside me in my journey through womanhood and life. Even though it’s messy at times. Let’s be our beautiful selves together.